who is your boyfriend?
his name is Odin. he’s kinda chubby and furry but i love him the way he is, and he loves me back unconditionally. mostly because i feed him. he’s about a foot tall, and has four legs and a tail. i call him meow-meow. he’s a cat.
Actually no, the more I think about it, the more I want to educate you and hopefully create one less ignorant bigoted idiot in the world.
So, here’s the anonymous message I received:
"Gay by definition is different & gay male IS bad (read misogyny, child molestation is majority men on boy, & gay males are 60+% of HIV and only 4% of the population) people of any type are entitled to an opinion if they are respectful & compassionate to others,privileged or marginalized.If the homophobes & the queer pop r both h8ful @ssholes to compassionate respectful people in the middle the status quo will continue.If they respectfully participate in the marketplace of ideas society moves fwd"
I already replied saying i don’t have time for this shit but i decided to pick it apart.
"Gay by definition is different"
By whose definition, may I ask? The Merriam-Webster definition states, “gay (adj): sexually attracted to someone who is the same sex.” Nothing in that definition says or implies “different.” Granted, I’ll give you that gay people are different than straight people in that they’re attracted to the same sex as opposed to the opposite sex, but there’s nothing inherently negative about that. Also, I think it’s really ironic, because the prefix “homo-” actually means “same”, while the prefix “hetero-” means different. HA
"& gay male IS bad"
That is entirely a matter of subjective opinion, and it’s really, really sad that you think that. Homosexuality is not a lifestyle choice. It’s a sexual preference, which is something you can’t change, just as much as you can’t change your own heterosexuality or your race. And if you think someone is bad because of something entirely out of their control, I think that makes you the bad person.
Also, why did you feel the need to include the word “male”? Is gay female okay to you, while gay male is bad? Why is that? Is it because lesbians don’t make you as “uncomfortable” as gay males do, because lesbians are hot and eroticized? fuck off.
"Misogyny (noun): hatred of women" (source: Merriam-Webster) I don’t see where you get this one from, because have you met a gay guy who doesn’t love girls and girl things? I’m kidding. That’s a stereotype that definitely doesn’t represent the whole gay population, but really, this is such an irrelevant comment. Sexual attraction to the same sex does not in any way equate to hatred of women…
"child molestation is majority men on boy,"
While I’d like to see your sources for that, I don’t entirely doubt you. But that’s also completely irrelevant because pedophilia is not the same as homosexuality. (pedo: children, philia: unnatural attraction). The fact that a man is attracted to men is entirely separate from attraction to children.
"& gay males are 60+% of HIV and only 4% of the population)"
Though you didn’t quote your sources, I see similar statistics on aids.gov. However, this is also an irrelevant point that doesn’t effect you at all whatsoever or contribute to your farfetched notion that gay=bad. That statistic is tragic, and most likely due to lack of sex education for young gay males. The fact that a lot of society thinks in the (shitty) way you do, means that young gay males are too ashamed to talk about safer sex practices with adult figures in their lives.
"people of any type are entitled to an opinion if they are respectful & compassionate to others,privileged or marginalized."
Okay, everyone is “entitled to an opinion” (in America at least, via First Amendment, you can’t be imprisoned for speaking your idiot opinion) but that doesn’t change the fact that you shouldn’t share it in some cases. I’m entitled to have the opinion that I dislike someone’s outfit or hair or face for instance, but saying it would obviously have negative consequences. And the whole deal about privileged vs. marginalized that you’re referring to, I’m guessing from my “privileged ignorance” tumblr post, I really don’t think you got the point. Of course you’re allowed to fucking speak your shitty opinion, that’s the whole point of having privilege. But if you’re coming from a place of privilege (i.e., white, straight, male, cisgender, abled, middle to high SES, etc.) then speaking up about your opinions on the respective marginalized community is downright ignorant and rude. As a male, you have no idea what it’s like to be a woman, so interjecting your opinion about woman’s issues is not your place. Of course you’re ALLOWED to do that but that’s just a shitty thing to do. Same goes for all the other privileges. So what I was telling that guy was, as a straight guy, it’s rude and unthoughtful and ignorant to declare your opinion about a young lesbian girl. And go on, tell me now how you can be “respectful and compassionate to others” if you’re telling someone of a marginalized community what you think is right and wrong for them to do?!
"If the homophobes & the queer pop r both h8ful @ssholes to compassionate respectful people in the middle the status quo will continue."
I don’t understand where this is coming from? Who are these “compassionate respectful people in the middle”? You’re either a homophobe, or you’re not. And this isn’t two sides of a debate where both sides are right in different ways.. this is a matter of hate vs. acceptance. “Homophobe (noun): a person who hates or is afraid of homosexuals or treats them badly”. There’s no situation in which hate towards an entire population (again, it’s not a choice, so it’s hate towards a group of people with a particular trait) is okay. And admittedly, members of the queer community can be hateful. But is this not justified? If you were marginalized, hated, and discriminated against based on something out of your control, would you not be sad and scared and angry at the world, reason enough to be a hateful person? Hatred from the queer community is also hatred towards an attitude (homophobia), not hatred towards an uncontrollable aspect of a person.
"If they respectfully participate in the marketplace of ideas society moves fwd"
Again, this isn’t a right vs. right debate, where we can come to some compromise in the middle. This is an issue of granting a community basic fucking human rights. Society doesn’t move “fwd” until everyone is accepting of everyone, and doesn’t treat one another differently based on things out of their control.
I hope you rethink what you said and learn a thing or two.
Gay by definition is different & gay male IS bad (read misogyny, child molestation is majority men on boy, & gay males are 60+% of HIV and only 4% of the population) people of any type are entitled to an opinion if they are respectful & compassionate to others,privileged or marginalized.If the homophobes & the queer pop r both h8ful @ssholes to compassionate respectful people in the middle the status quo will continue.If they respectfully participate in the marketplace of ideas society moves fwd
i’m just going to leave this here so my followers can see how much of an uneducated fucking idiot you are.
i’d gladly point out every piece of this message that is wrong, but i don’t have time for basics like you who start off a message with “gay=bad” and you are exactly the type of person who is not worth even the least of my energy.
Again I didn't come out saying rape culture doesn't exist and I also didn't know you didn't take actions in making your situation a serious problem. Leah it's contradicting that you're letting people know to be against rape culture even tho your rape is not "bad enough".
you’ve got to be kidding me???
first of all, you’re using very VERY insensitive language here. in no situation is it okay to refer to an incidence of sexual assault as “your rape”. so stop right there.
and did you not understand the whole point of the post? the only reason i told that story is to demonstrate that society frowns upon talking about that as a victim, and growing up in our “rape culture” led me to believe that what happened to me was not a serious issue. i definitely never claimed that “my rape” (i just literally cringed writing that. seriously, if you’re going to talk about a touchy subject, be careful how you word things) was not a bad thing. i clearly meant, and stated, otherwise.
honestly, you’re in NO position to be talking about this topic so for real sit the fuck down and keep your mouth shut and educate yourself.
the fact that you think you have a say here is a perfect example of heterosexual male privilege. know your place.
(also it really doesn’t help your case that all you post are pictures of oversexualized women)
(potential trigger warning)
I want to live in a world where I don’t have to be scared to walk down the street alone at night. I want to live in a place where my choice of clothing is not an invitation to be objectified. A place where the first question asked to a victim of sexual assault isn’t “were you drinking?” “were you alone?” or worst of all, “what were you wearing?” A place where it doesn’t take a serious incidence of gang rape for the community to realize that sexual assault is a real issue. I want to live in a world where sexual assault ISN’T an issue.
"Rape" and "culture" are two words that should never be used together. "Rape culture" should NEVER be a thing. That phrase is disgusting. Tragically, though, that is the culture we live in, and we have to face that reality by teaching girls to carry pepper spray and take self-defense lessons and dress modestly and travel in groups, because god forbid if something were to happen to a girl, she must have been unprepared or done something wrong or have been "asking for it" somehow.
We put so much time, effort, and money into teaching girls how to avoid being sexually assaulted and be safe, putting more lighting in the streets, and increasing our police force. While this is great and is definitely a step forward, how about we take a different approach? Start teaching us (boys, girls and everyone else alike) that a lonely, drunk, “slutty” girl on the street is not an “opportunity” or a “target” to take advantage of? Teach us that “I/she/he was drunk” is never an excuse for sexual violence?
Continuing to perpetuate the idea that women need to be prepared in case of attack (which is always a good preventative measure, i’m definitely not encouraging otherwise) simultaneously perpetuates the idea that sexual violence just happens. That it’s okay, and it’s a normal thing that you can expect if you’re UNprepared. And gives potential sexual offenders the idea that their victims deserved it, because they weren’t making good decisions.
STOP RAPE CULTURE. Stop blaming victims of sexual assault for their attack, as if it’s not already traumatizing enough. Stop slut-shaming, as if a girl’s sexuality or choice of outfit dehumanizes her in any way. Stop the bullshit.
(p.s. I don’t want to disregard the fact that anyone can be a victim of sexual violence, men included, but a vast majority of cases, including the two of this past weekend on our campus, are committed by a man/men on a woman.)